When You Face Death Again

Grief is something that’s inevitable.

It’s something we will all face. ..eventually.

That means we will all face grief.

Now this can make it or break it for you if you didn’t grieve well, the first time.

What do I mean by grieve well?

I simply mean allocating the appropriate amount of time to feeling the emotions and feelings that are accompanied within grief.

Grief isn’t always somebody dying.

But in the circumstance of this blog post, it’s what I’m referring to.

When you face death in the eyes-

When you go down the all familiar road-

That feels dark and lonely..

You begin to remember all of the similarities that you once clung to.

All of the similarities that grief brought.

Taking time to rest is essential.

When someone you love, dies -

Your body is expelling all of the water in its tears.

It’s exhausted.

Your brain working overtime trying to keep you in survival mode.

As the problem solving brain-

Trying to solve a problem that has no solution that’s adequate or appropriate for this circumstance.

You’ve faced grief before,

You’ve faced death before.

And you can do it again.

Only this time,

Maybe with more intention?

More deliberate time to rest.

Or withdraw.

Or laugh. Or cry.

Or just feel it.

Maybe the intention looks like getting into a Bible study on death and dying.

Or reading a book about grief.

Coming around to the grief you’ve experienced, and maybe you’re years out from the last death you’ve had to face.

For me, it’s my stepdad. Who died at the end of December 2024.

It wasn’t a choice I wanted to make-

To face death again.

Is it really anyone’s choice whether they want to grieve or not?

The all too familiar feelings of missing them. Remembering them. Trying to figure out ways to honor them.

With more intention. Taking the decade of life in between both deaths I’m speaking of and truly trying to allocate time toward my healing.

Healthily healing.

And you can too.

You can too.